By Louise Kinross
Perhaps it’s the nature of Twitter’s brevity, but I see a disturbing trend in people tweeting simplistic, declarative statements about how parents of children with disabilities ‘should’ feel and think.
An example is this tweet on Autism Awareness Day:
I do not long for a non-Autistic version of my child. I have the child I want. I LOVE the EXACT child I have.
My thinking was, great for you, but what does this have to do with where other parents may be on their own journey to accepting their child’s differences?
In an op-ed piece in The New York Times, David Brooks talks about how experiences that upend our world view change us.
“First, suffering drags you deeper into yourself. The theologian Paul Tillich wrote that people who endure suffering are taken beneath the routines of life and find they are not who they believed themselves to be. The agony involved in, say, composing a great piece of music or the grief of having lost a loved one smashes through what they thought was the bottom floor of their personality, revealing an area below, and then it smashes through that floor revealing another area.