First, the New York Times Motherlode blog featured about another mother's experience with brain injury in her son. It sent shivers up my spine and contributed to my shift in thinking.
Brenda Rothman's in the Huffington Post fueled this idea, offering me hope and inspiration:
She writes: You were given an instruction manual for a Ford and your child is a Ferrari. So, congratulations! Your child is NOT fundamentally different from other children. You just need the right instruction manual. Parenting your child will be more intense. You'll need more patience and time. Your child will have intense emotions and needs. But he'll also have intense curiosity, drive, determination, desire, persistence and individuality. What you'll need to find is the right fuel, the right environment and the right supports. With those, your child has great potential. With the right supports, he will have a happy and fulfilling life.
But now it’s time for us to move forward and forget about what happened to our son as being a misfortune at all. It’s something that happened. Things happen.