tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447392662850613354.post717763181374528530..comments2024-02-25T10:24:30.868-05:00Comments on Special needs disability parenting BLOOM: 'Burdens and blessings'BLOOM - Parenting Kids With Disabilitieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06901482901008135659noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447392662850613354.post-70926264546916097722010-12-01T23:18:33.906-05:002010-12-01T23:18:33.906-05:00Children with special children should be treated w...Children with special children should be treated with kindness and care.They are usually not respected...they have a right to do every other thing a normal child does.We must not be unkind to them.There is also a lot of medical help these days including surgery that could help the special children.Plastic Surgeons Atlantahttp://www.johnconnorsmd.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447392662850613354.post-18237775000176068652010-05-14T15:01:26.967-04:002010-05-14T15:01:26.967-04:00Thanks for sharing! I am an occupational therapist...Thanks for sharing! I am an occupational therapist who works with infants and toddlers with special needs in their home/community setting. I get the opportunity to see parents move from denial to acceptance to wanting to be the best parents ever of their special needs child. One thing I love to see is when the various parents get togehter and discuss what's "tough" about their child as well as ideas to help. I think it is so important to have that opportunity to vent! Parenting any child is difficult, and I do think parenting a child with special needs can be even more of a trial, especially if the child has multiple medical problems. My heart goes out to you and I pray that you can be the best parent for both of your kids! Penny is a blessing just the way she is!OT 4 special totshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17427590207682452425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447392662850613354.post-55861796207074984142010-05-13T16:07:29.492-04:002010-05-13T16:07:29.492-04:00Beautiful I really enjoyed that post too, I see...Beautiful I really enjoyed that post too, I see life with my special girl as something to be truly celebrated. She brings out the best in people. I feel like it's a true blessing to be her mom. I have four kids and honestly I don't find it's any harder to bring up Ashley then the other 3. <br /><br />SherrySherry Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17320106277509509294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447392662850613354.post-12596545108867666782010-05-12T23:00:32.008-04:002010-05-12T23:00:32.008-04:00It is very hard to bring up kids with disabilities...It is very hard to bring up kids with disabilities...they need extra doze of love and patience and tolerance.Sometimes with the busy schedule and hectic life it is hard but ypur thoughts are very affectionate for your child.I am sure there will be signs of improvement.Breast Augmentation Los Angeleshttp://www.jaycalvertmd.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447392662850613354.post-48501639619220213852010-05-12T15:15:01.543-04:002010-05-12T15:15:01.543-04:00I completely relate to this and I think it stems f...I completely relate to this and I think it stems from the general devaluation of kids with disabilities in our culture. So as parents, we never want to feel like we're somehow contributing to that -- which puts us in a tough spot when we need support.<br /><br />And I agree with Ellen -- harder doesn't mean less rich or meaningful or worthwhile.<br /><br />I'm glad Elizabeth posted that as a professional, she wouldn't have intuitively understood this bind we sometimes feel ourselves in.<br /><br />Thanks so much Amy Julia for writing this beautiful piece!BLOOM - Parenting Kids With Disabilitieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06901482901008135659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447392662850613354.post-66439316449945712402010-05-10T17:54:04.523-04:002010-05-10T17:54:04.523-04:00When you write about not wanting to betray Penny b...When you write about not wanting to betray Penny by admitting that there are aspects to parenting a child with special needs, I understand. In fact, your whole post hit chords with me right until the end. <br /><br />Truly, a great post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447392662850613354.post-61965863479579814312010-05-10T17:16:56.344-04:002010-05-10T17:16:56.344-04:00amy,
thank you for posting this. as an early inte...amy,<br />thank you for posting this. as an early intervention/early childhood physical therapist, i would never have thought that a parent might view speaking about the challenges their child faces and that the family faces as a result of a disability or delay as a betrayal of all that their child CAN do and the family IS. this helps me understand better where some parents are coming from. thank you for posting.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04549068155719996908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447392662850613354.post-14949192168731020732010-05-10T15:07:17.552-04:002010-05-10T15:07:17.552-04:00Thanks so much for sharing. I can defintiely rela...Thanks so much for sharing. I can defintiely relate to how you are feeling & I'm sure that there are countless others out there who feel the same way.Looking Uphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00622397350942965771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-447392662850613354.post-33047491569044727352010-05-10T14:54:48.752-04:002010-05-10T14:54:48.752-04:00It is harder, overall, to have a child with a disa...It is harder, overall, to have a child with a disability than not. I think it is really important to be honest about that, with others and ourselves. But being honest about that does not mean that "harder" should be translated into "less desirable" or "to be avoided at all costs."<br /><br />Nor does it allow us dismiss how hard it is to raise ANY child and go around with a chip on our shoulders about all those other ridiculous parents who don't know how good they have it. (I admit...this one can be a little hard for me. We go to the emergency room A LOT. So I find it really hard to be sympathetic when a friend goes on and on about their ER trip for some minor little thing that probably didn't need the ER to begin with. But I know, from having two children without disabilities, that parenting is hard, hard, hard no matter what.)<br /><br />And I also think it's vital that we avoid the polar opposite of being overly focused on how hard things are, which is to focus on the "specialness" of our kids and make them into superhuman angels. Our kids do often have qualities that set them apart from others--they may be more empathetic, more mature, better able to converse with adults, have a high tolerance for pain, etc. But if we focus only on those qualities, we diminish them as humans. One thing I really valued about my upbringing (as a child with a disability) was that I was allowed to rant and rail about how unfair it all was when I needed to. And I always resented (still resent) news stories about the extraordinary-ness of kids with disabilities. I never wanted to be extraordinary. I just wanted to be OK.Ellen Painter Dollarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04249909035254149073noreply@blogger.com